Mother’s Day and 1st & 2nd Mrs. Amos’s

Amos cousins


When my generation—the Amos Boys’ children—were kids, we always gathered for holidays, birthdays, Mother’s and Father’s Days, and summer outings. We’d all get together—us kids, our parents and our grandparents. It’s just what we did.

It wasn’t until I was an adult that I realized how unique this was. It’s unique because there in attendance were Roland, his wife Harriet, and his ex-wife Gladys. And everybody got along.

Maybe unique isn’t the best word. Maybe special is better. And caring, giving and tolerant.


I once asked Harriet about this. It was after Roland died and we were talking about special things.

She said they did this right from the beginning. Apparently, there was to be an upcoming gathering and Bruce’s wife, Jeanne, said she was not going to have separate parties. Harriet asked Roland if that was okay. He said yes. Roland asked Gladys if that was okay. And she said yes.

In our phone conversation this week, the Amos Boys talked about Roland, Harriet and Gladys.

“Elaine, and Jeanne, and Carol, they all got together and informed Dad and Harriet, and I suppose our Mother too, that we were going to get together and if they wanted to come, we would all be there,” says Duane. “And so they did get together.”

“They made it plain they weren’t going to have two or three different celebrations each time,” adds Jerry.

And so it was.


Harriet (on the right) once introduced Gladys as the first Mrs. Amos
and herself as the second Mrs. Amos.

Harriet told me this togetherness was awkward only when my sisters and I invited them, the grandmothers, to our school’s annual Mother-Daughter Banquet. Harriet would always pick up Gladys and they would ride from Lansing to Owosso together.

“It mustn’t have been too awkward. They often would all ride together,” says Duane. “Like when they came to our house.”

And so it was.


This week our post is dedicated to the awesome mothers in our family—Gladys, who was mother to our beloved Amos Boys; Harriet, who happily took on a ready-made family; and Carol, Jeanne and Elaine, who married the Amos Boys and had us kids.

And, of course, here’s to the generations of mothers that now follow.

Happy Mother’s Day to you all!

10 thoughts on “Mother’s Day and 1st & 2nd Mrs. Amos’s

  1. First to post — great entry Di. I remeber the Mother’s Day / spring clean-up gatherings at Grandma’s house. Her lush lawn and fertile soil, the big tree-well I had trouble climbing out of.

    • Funny you should mention that Cheryl. For some reason, I always correlate that tree-well and childhood Mother’s Days as well. We must have played there a lot.

  2. As you all know, my parents divorced when we were in our twenties (well, Scott was 19 I believe). Mom remarried and Dad had a long relationship with Shirley Casler. Since the sisters-in-law were so close, and since Mom and Dad still got along, Dad and Shirley AND Mom and Bob still got together with Duane, Carol, Jerry and Elaine. I remember being at Cheryl’s wedding reception where someone noticed Mom and Shirley chatting and laughing. That person asked them why they got along (that’s not supposed to happen, right?). Mom and Shirley looked at each other and both said “because we like each other!”

    We do have a very special family! Our grandparents and parents were always concerned about the whole family, not just themselves. Now that’s love!!

  3. When I wrote this particular post, I had Gladys and Harriet in mind as women brought together because of divorce. However, I should have extended the topic to include women who come into the family because of death. Duane’s wife, Jan, is a wonderful example of this.

    Jan married into our family after her husband died and Duane’s wife died. As awesome as we Amos’s are (said with a wink and a smile), it certainly takes great patience and tolerance to take on someone else’s family and love them as your own. Jan has done this and so much more!

    In the weeks ahead, when we begin celebrating the wives’ birthdays on this blog, I look forward to introducing Jan to those of you who haven’t met her. She’s great!

  4. Pingback: Happy Birthday Jeanie! | Those (Expletive) Amos Boys


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